I recently interviewed 32 women between the ages of 35 to 73 and read the survey replies of 112 women between the same ages in response to a request for some insight into my target market for The Blue Glass Journal. Okay, so this is not precisely a Gallup poll outcome, but it is as important a result as any I can find because I found our similarities when we are in a time of pointing out our differences. These are women with real-life struggles and joys, women who may or may not work, may or may not be married, may or may not be mothers, and may or may not have been assigned at birth the gender they identify as.
Naturally, my questions brought together a targeted response, but one thing stood out, for the most part, we all want to be happy. The line “I just want to be happy” was overwhelmingly used. If you google “what percentage of women are happy” you won’t be pleased with the outcome. Articles about why we are unhappy being married (happier being single…I don’t exactly think that is right either), dissatisfied with our jobs, unhappy raising kids, unhappy with all that we gained from our efforts for equality (duh, like we are even close to what we need to achieve), unhappy with our sex lives, unhappy with our bodies, all these depressing articles pop up, assaulting my pollyanna dream bubble.
I think that we are lucky if we are happy 60% of the time. There are so many variables and complications in life that make that our reality. This is not all doom and gloom though, I think we have been manipulated to believe that it is possible to be happy all the time. What I learned through all the conversations with these women who shared their truth and insights is that if we focus on gratitude, the love in our lives, and stay connected to our being, it can feel like we are happy 90% of the time. I will gladly take a solid 60% happy and a 30% gratitude and love connection. That 10% is manageable when we have these kinds of happiness odds.