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Your Love Story – February New Moon

Maybe I am feeling the effects the emotional high of all the lovers from Valentine’s Day yesterday.  I usually like to focus on the new moon for the upcoming period but this month, I find it really important to focus on what is happening right now, as a start for our next two week period. The journal asks us to consider what we can do about the wishy-washy areas in our life, feel free to go in any direction you like.

The more I learn about the transits and important astrological dates the more I consider getting the proper education for a better understanding, this shit fascinates me! From what I understand, this solar eclipse in Aquarius is pretty significant to our love life and critical new beginnings. We are going to feel the elevation.

This is like lunar moonshine!

Mostly, this solar eclipse is a story – a new moon/opening/portal/bright new beginning – and this one is about relationships – your love story. It feels like a somewhat auspicious time to do the work for what we want, and be willing to imagine an ending different than the one we had previously believed, the brand new chapter that we have been dreaming about but uncertain of, is possible. For our happily ever after, we need a solid once upon a time. Remember, work in a two week period can be work that sets up our future, six months from now, maybe even years from now.

What has been brewing in your heart? What of the impossible feat? How are you going to make this happen? What steps can you take in the next two week period to get your ‘once upon a time’ started?

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Brave Connection to the Beloved

February brings images of Cupid and that little fucker’s legendary bow, boxed candy, flowers, greeting cards and overpriced dinners for at least two weeks of the month. Valentine’s either gives you happy shivers or the uncontrollable urge to gag.

I admit I love the idea of Valentine’s Day. I think a day to celebrate love is simply lovely. Should we show affection all the other days? Absolutely.

This single girl is not going to ramble on about lovers and divine connection. This post is about the most essential beloved. Our first love, our self.  We all know the oxygen mask reasoning for self-care and survival. There is no denying the truth there, with that idea in mind, I am challenging you, inviting you to go deeper. With true self-love and awareness comes the ability to receive genuine love and feel it without question, appreciate it, and nurture it. The core purpose of The Blue Glass Journal is to connect to who we are and live fully to the best of our ability in our real life that often is messy and maybe out of control.

I am suggesting one of the hardest challenges you will face. And I invite you to do it with love and intention, as well as bravery because you probably have never been here before.

Starting February 1, which happens to be an incredibly powerful feminine energy day as the start of Imbolic (a two-day celebration of the quickening of the Goddess promising new life in preparation of spring ), I ask you to every day, not missing a day, write one different thing that you love and appreciate about yourself. No repeats. No skipping days. Every single day. One piece of you. Identify it, name it, feel it, connect to it each day for the entire month.

I invite you to look at your whole being, your physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, the hidden and forgotten. All the parts that make you the beautiful, complicated woman you are.

The Blue Glass Journal has a great deal of focus on gratitude. I don’t have to be gifted to guess that your journal has others as your gratitude points and not your own attributes. The research I did for the journal unquestionably showed me the benefits of feeling true gratitude in our lives. The list is long; happiness, satisfaction, increased serotonin, stronger health, stronger social relationships, deeper committed relationships, less stress, the list is long.

Continue the gratitude practice and add this one piece in, imagine what could happen at the end of 28 days of introspection of self.  The beloved is calling.

Updated to add the pdf if you don’t want to add it to the journal or are not using the journal. Connecting to the Beloved (1)

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January, 2018 New Moon

cropped-girl-writing-in-a-diary-picjumbo-com.jpgAlthough we are still in the energy of Capricorn, the new moon to full moon cycle will take us into the golden sign of Aquarius. When I implemented the lunar planning cycle, I was overwhelmed with wanting to do so many things and uncertain how to pick what to do first. One thing I knew for sure, my January laundry list of goals seemed attainable and manageable until I tried to put the many of them into practice. Some didn’t make it past the first day.

One approach to deciding what project to start is an excellent old-fashioned project management approach. When companies are choosing what plan to work on first, often the smaller projects that may not seem significant get first attention. Why? Because they are the fixes that the customer is going to notice first. What change or project will be something that you can use for motivation to move forward? Need to organise your entrance way?

I attempt to make the new moon sacred. I have been intending to use Danielle LaPorte’s cleansing bath ritual but keep forgetting – it is in my planner to do it this new moon! Her mixture is 2-3 cups of Himalayan salt (or Epsom), 1-2 cups of apple cider vinegar, 12 drops of lavender. Ha! Remember when I said I would never suggest you take a bath! Insert ‘fuck it’ sticker here!

I always light a candle and meditate on my desires and thoughts on the path I need to be following.  Fire is an integral part of my process, but it may not be yours. Fire is energy and life, it is unforgiving but also protective. The same candle will burn the page that I will write out my ideas, thoughts, and goals for the next two weeks.

My friend Jen joked that we can have two weeks off the diet this way. I think it is safe to say, eating well should be part of our life every day. I struggle with it and have been a member of Weight Watchers for 23 years on and off. Food is what goes into my ‘Journal what I need” space.

The idea to use the sun sign energy each month came from Christina from Radiant Astrology it is a suggestion only but may help decide where to start.

The energy that comes from Aquarius is innovative, idealistic, pragmatic, community-based, humanitarian, science led and fun. They are quirky visionaries who dream up grand schemes. It is a fixed sign which is always good for considering goals. One thing Aquarius folk dislike is drama

I am curious about what is on your new year’s goal or resolution list.

Here are some questions you can ask to get started in thinking of what you want to achieve in this lunar cycle:

  • What am I ready to share?
  • Where do I need balance?
  • What mastery am I ready to begin?
  • Are there outstanding responsibilities I have been putting off?
  • Is my money in order?
  • Who have I not been spending enough time with?
  • Who robs me of my energy?
  • Does an area of my community need my help?
  • Am I having enough fun?
  • Am I saying fuck it enough?

Come on over to The Facebook Group to let us know what your first lunar plans are going to be.

 

The Blue Glass Journal

The idea for the Blue Glass Journal started one day after juggling a journal, a food journal, and a planner. This bundle of books spurred me to try to find one that fit all of my needs. I explored many varieties and styles, getting more and more frustrated. I found myself giving up journalling/planning, the last straw was being annoyed at the latest $108 (after shipping and exchange) journal that didn’t leave me room for writing, but instead had check marks on things to do to live my best life.

  • Look at the pretty flowers, see beauty all around
  • Do something nice for someone
  • Take a bubble bath
  • Don’t be an asshole

Check, check, check.

So I decided to get to work to see what other women thought. What followed was one of the most educational experiences of my life. I interviewed friends but felt I should talk to people I didn’t know for clarity. I got fortunate, I had a great response from the women of the B-School collective.

Being stuck and not moving forward was the common theme. When we got to this point in the conversation, voices changed, there were long pauses in our conversation. The result of being so stuck was fear. Crippling fear. I dug a little deeper to learn what that fear does to our emotions, our bodies, our relationships. There are few areas of our life that don’t get affected when we are afraid that we are not living our ‘purpose’. My god. I travelled across the ocean and woke at 5 am to meditate with Buddhist nuns to try to figure out my purpose. Many years later I really heard what was said to me at Plum Villiage. There is no fucking seeking our purpose. Truth, a nun said that to me. Okay, her expression that said she was so sick of white women coming to the monastery to seek clarity to find their ‘purpose’ said it to me, she simply repeated Thay’s teaching of the Buddha to not seek without, it is within. It is in us. We are born with it.

The common threads were simply:

  • Lack of gratitude
  • Lack of money awareness
  • Lack of movement (specifically in our hips)
  • Lack of paying attention to important aspects of our life

The importance of living life and accomplishing what we want to accomplish needed to be incorporated in the journal. Every new year, I make a vision board, a list, goals and I get excited. By February, I lose my journal, lose steam, lose desire, the list is endless. Sometimes September will renew that excitement with that little new year boost, but never enough to find the planner. The overwhelm stops me in my tracks.

I turned to some experts to seek out how chakras, tight hip flexors, blocked energy or chi, money worries, the biology (it is) and psychology of not having gratitude, keep us locked in 1990 for fifteen years. Everything in the journal, I did myself. When I was at the lowest point of my life, these tools got me out of bed, that is proof enough for me that this works. Then, I got some unexpected inspiration and had to change the entire plan! My biggest challenge is making lasting change and getting things done. I have a list of things to do, and I just don’t know where to start so I leave it for tomorrow, or if it is food related…Monday. A brilliant woman named Beth did some coaching with me, and she would send me new moon prompts. So I incorporated the prompts and gave myself to the full moon to get things done. The moon is constant. There is no putting off its cycle. Then, Christina came along and suggested I incorporate the energy of each sun sign during the period. Not knowing much about astrology I struggled with the authenticity of it because I am not an expert, but I learned for the journal I didn’t need to be an expert, just have enough understanding to explore with the idea. Throughout the year, the experts that helped me learn and understand how to get unstuck will contribute articles, or FB live sessions to share their wisdom.

The disappointment for me came from my lack of publishing experience, the integrity of accessibility was lost in the development, and the font is so small. My sincerest apologies for that.

I designed the journal so that it is your space. Your life. Your tool. But I also wanted it to read like you were sitting with a friend. I hope that you feel it. I also hope that if you decide to use the journal (or not) that you join the community and find support, humour, and joy for daily living.

Because we are real women, who have tough days. It comes with beautiful ‘fuck it’ stickers.

From my heart to yours, my greatest desire is that you feel connected to your beautiful, messy, complicated, and purposeful life.

By simply giving a few minutes a day:

  • Giving gratitude
  • Having money awareness
  • Movement
  • Journalling what you need
  • Using the moon cycle to accomplish goals or plans

I also included some essential ideas that I learned along the way and through my life coaching accreditation to help move forward. None of which include taking a bath.Spiritual Stock Caroline White Photography DSCF1672_

 

 

Happiness, is it a Realistic Goal?

I recently interviewed 32 women between the ages of 35 to 73 and read the survey replies of 112 women between the same ages in response to a request for some insight into my target market for The Blue Glass Journal. Okay, so this is not precisely a Gallup poll outcome, but it is as important a result as any I can find because I found our similarities when we are in a time of pointing out our differences. These are women with real-life struggles and joys, women who may or may not work, may or may not be married, may or may not be mothers, and may or may not have been assigned at birth the gender they identify as.

Naturally, my questions brought together a targeted response, but one thing stood out, for the most part, we all want to be happy. The line “I just want to be happy” was overwhelmingly used.  If you google “what percentage of women are happy” you won’t be pleased with the outcome.  Articles about why we are unhappy being married (happier being single…I don’t exactly think that is right either), dissatisfied with our jobs, unhappy raising kids, unhappy with all that we gained from our efforts for equality (duh, like we are even close to what we need to achieve), unhappy with our sex lives, unhappy with our bodies, all these depressing articles pop up, assaulting my pollyanna dream bubble.

I think that we are lucky if we are happy 60% of the time. There are so many variables and complications in life that make that our reality. This is not all doom and gloom though, I think we have been manipulated to believe that it is possible to be happy all the time.  What I learned through all the conversations with these women who shared their truth and insights is that if we focus on gratitude, the love in our lives, and stay connected to our being, it can feel like we are happy 90% of the time. I will gladly take a solid 60% happy and a 30% gratitude and love connection.  That 10% is manageable when we have these kinds of happiness odds.